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How You Can Help My Son Not Get Possibly Murdered Over A Movie Ticket One Day #JusticeForEthan

Back in February I wrote about Ethan Saylor; a 26 year old man with Down syndrome who was murdered by police over a 12 dollar movie ticket. Ethan Robert Saylor went to watch a screening of “Zero Dark Thirty,” and after the movie was finished  briefly left the theater before walking back into the theater to watch the movie a second time.

The manager called three off duty police offers who were working as mall security guards to come and remove Ethan. The three officers quickly stormed in the dark theater screaming for Ethan to get out of his seat (which I’m guessing terrified  him; he wasn’t sure what was going on, or who these men were yelling at him. Remember Ethan has Down syndrome which is a mental disability, and there’s a good chance he didn’t understand he was breaking a rule by entering that theater a second time.) He had no context who these three men were screaming at him in the dark theater.

While all of this was going on, Ethan’s aide (caretaker) had arrived at theater to pick him up from the first showing, and tried to explain to the police officers that Ethan has a mental disability and to allow her to get Ethan out of the theater. Her pleas were ignored, and the deputies forcefully pulled Ethan out of his seat, forced him to the ground, and handcuffed him. He was terrified.

In fact, witnesses described hearing Ethan crying and calling out for his mom. The three police officer struggled with Ethan and held him down on the ground at the bottom of a 3 man dog-pile him so hard and so long that they fractured the cartilage in Ethan’s throat (usually the result of manual strangulation) and choked him to the point he he stopped breathing and went into cardiac arrest.

Within minutes Ethan Robert Saylor was dead.

Let that sink in.

Three police offers working as mall security guards choked a 26 year old man with Down syndrome to death on a Saturday afternoon over a misunderstanding involving a ten dollar movie ticket.

Ethan’s death was ruled a homicide by asphyxiation, but the grand jury failed to indict the officers involved and they were allowed to return to duty without any consequences. Ethan’s family has a lot of questions.

And so do I. (As does the entire Down syndrome community.)

How The Power Of Social Media Is Helping Bring Justice To Ethan

After the police who murdered Ethan were cleared of all charges (even though his death was ruled a homicide) Ethan’s family turned to the power of social media to help them find some justice.

They created a website telling their story. They started a hashtag (#JusticeForEthan) and asked people to tweet out specific quotes and a link to their site using the hashtag. Bloggers got behind it. And now they are harnessing the power of social media to help open up an independent investigation into Ethan’s death.

Ethan’s family has created a Charge.org petition, which as of today has 320,000 signatures calling for their Governor (Martin O’Malley) to conduct  an independent investigation into Saylor’s death and for proper training for police.

Part of the problem is that police officers in Maryland aren’t trained enough in how to deal with developmentally disabled people like my brother. I think training is an important next step in making sure that what happens to my brother never happens to anyone else. We need a comprehensive, independent investigation that will show all sides of the truth; unbiased and thorough. I want my governor and attorney general to get justice for my brother, and to implement training protocols so that no other family will ever have to experience the pain my family feels.

I love seeing so many people banning together and leveraging their social networks to make sure this story isn’t forgotten.

And now it’s time for me to do the same.

Will You Please Sign The Petition?

This blog, and our related social media accounts, has developed into a rather large platform over the course of the last several years. So large in fact we think together we (this means you!) can help the Saylor’s get the rest of the signatures their petition needs.

Would you please mind taken 2 minutes to read and sign the petition? After reading it will you please email, tweet, or share this link on your Facebook page asking your friends to please sign the petition as well?  (If you are on twitter consider copying and pasting the following tweet: “Down Syndrome isn’t a cause of death. #JusticeForEthan )

It Could Happen To My Son (Or Yours.)

I could write all night about why this matters, but here’s the very short answer: Noah’s going to grow up to be a 26 year old man with Down syndrome one day (God willing.) There will  be times when Noah doesn’t understand something and there will be times when people don’t understand him.

That scares me.

Would happened to Ethan Saylor could easily happen to Noah Smith one day. Most people don’t know anyone with special needs, and most people certainly have never been properly trained on the specific characteristics of those various special needs. Some people may be afraid of Noah. Some people will probably call him names. Some people won’t know how to act around him. Some people will feel awkward. Some people will probably mistreat him, or try to hurt him (either emotionally or physically.)

I’m not omnipresent so I can’t always be there to protect him. I also want Noah to be able to be as independent as he can. I want him to hang out with his friends. To go to high school football games. To the mall. To the movies. To do some of the typical stuff that we all do…without worrying about him being hurt (or murdered!) by three over zealous police officers who want to be  tough guys.

As I’ve said before things have to change. This has to stop. Signing a petition won’t stop it. Only God changing the hearts of people will.

But it will help.

By signing the petition you are helping stories like this stay in the public eye. You’re helping to bring accountability to those you need it. You’re helping to provide training so that hopefully when my son (or yours) misunderstands the rules at a movie theater he won’t end up on the ground under three grown man and choked to death.

Signing the petition won’t make everything better, but it ‘ll help.

Not All Stories Have A Happy Ending (This Side Of Heaven.)

Ethan was someone’s son. Someone’s brother. Someone’s friend. He was created in the image of God, and God loves him. His family family loved him. He was a human being worthy of respect and dignity. My mind keeps trying to reply the day Ethan died. I can’t even imagine how heart breaking that scene must have been.

Ethan crying out for his mom, terrified as three strangers burst into a dark movie theater screaming and yelling, threw Ethan to the ground and put their hands around his neck so hard he couldn’t breath. Ethan’s aide screaming for the three police officers to ‘PLEASE STOP!” The young movie theater employees that called the police snickering outside the theater about the “weird guy who is getting arrested for sneaking into the movie theater.” The people sitting in that dark theater watching and listening to all of this; scared to speak up because they didn’t want the same thing to happen to them. Those three cops treating Ethan with no dignity. Beating him up. Not caring that they were about to take the life of a son who would no longer be coming home to his parents.

And then there’s Ethan’s parents. I can’t even imagine how they must have felt when that got that call. When they learned the details that their son died at the hands of the very people whose job it is to serve and protect us. When they found out their son’s death was a homicide, that he was choked to death. And then when they found out that the tree men who murdered their son were cleared of any wrong doing (by the local sheriff’s department who certainly wasn’t unbiased)  and allowed to go back to work like the whole thing had never happened.

It literately makes me sick.

It makes me sick that it could happen to my son. That it could happen to your son.

I’m thankful that even though we live in a world filled of evil, God still holds the whole world in His hands, and we can trust Him.

I hope you’ll take a few minutes to sign the petition and help Ethan’s family get the number of signatures they need to open up an independent investigation regarding their son’s death. But as I mentioned, that won’t fix the real problem. Only God can truly provide the remedy we’re really looking for.

So I pray tonight. For my son. For Ethan’s family. For our world to come to see all people as people created in the Image of God and deserving of love.it.

I hope you’ll  pray with me.

(And sign the petition.)

P.S. Check out this video….

Rick Smith

Hi, I'm Noah's Dad and I'm passionate about giving the world a window into our life as we raise our son who was born with Down syndrome. I also enjoy connecting with other families, so let's stay connected.

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  • I have a 13 year old with Downs and I also have a degree in Criminal Justice and not having knowledge is a stupid reason for this happening-it is called come sense and these cops failed to have that. Rookie officers who were trying to be like the hero from Mall Cop-Paul Blart.

  • As a special needs teacher, this upsets me too much to even comment... I will let others speak more eloquently, as I am too stunned here.

  • I have a son with Down Syndrome and this story made me cry when I first heard about it although I think there is a lot more to the story. I started reading this article and stopped myself when I got to the line "Remember Ethan has Down syndrome which is a mental disability". I don't agree that Down Syndrome is a mental disability! intellectual delay, low muscle tune which in turn causes low motor skills with handling objects and delayed speech, but mental NO!. Also Jean said "I have a 13 year old with Downs" I have never heard the term Downs used by a parent of a child with Down Syndrome from my community here in Australia.

    • Ken,

      Thanks so much for your comment. I am very sensitive to the words I use, and can understand you not liking the term "mental disability" since it seems to communicate something negative, but one of the characteristics Down syndrome is a cognitive disability. Now I use that term in the same way the medical community does. I prefer the term "differently abled." But the truth of the matter is that someone with Down syndrome typically has a more difficult time when things that someone without Down syndrome. That isn't being disrespectful, it's just being honest.

      What I meant in my post is that Ethan very well may not have understood that what he was doing was wrong, and this may very well be the case.

      In regards to the person using "Downs" ... why does that bother you so much? People in other countries (UK being one of them) actually use the term "Downs syndrome."

      • I am an RN and I had a sister with Down's Syndrome. (She recently passed away.) The term "mental disability" is a psychiatric term. The proper term is "development delay" which means that although he is 26, he has the intellect and cognitive capability of someone much younger. However, what you said about him probably not understanding is true.

        I have heard many parents shorten Down's Syndrome to just Down's and everyone knows what they mean.

        I think Ken is being overly critical. He said he stopped reading the article, yet he saw fit to comment about it. Instead of overlooking the minor imperfections he chose to pick apart the article and comment on the article he did not finish reading!

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    • I too am Australian and have a son with Down Syndrome. Yes, it does take some getting used to hearing other countries' description of DS. We use "Down Syndrome" instead of 'Down's', and "intellectually disabled" instead of 'mentally handicapped', and I do feel more comfortable with our terms.

      But none of those labels really matter - when we talk about justice, when we are distressed about what happened to Ethan, and worry about what might happen to ours and others' disabled children. I was shocked when I read about Ethan, and cried. I am still reeling.

      Yes, having DS doesn't necessarily mean a person is disabled; I know of a lawyer in Melbourne with DS, and a policeman in Adelaide with DS. However, the majority of children with DS do have significant cognitive impairment and developmental delay. I have to point out in response to what Ken said that my son is actually significantly more disabled than the majority with DS, so I would find it strange for anyone to say he wasn't disabled.

      But that doesn't matter either. What matters is that what happened to Ethan never happens again either to my child or anybody else's child.

  • Mr. Rick Smith: I so enjoy your day by day account about the life of your son, Noah. I have always had great compassion for anyone with disabilities of any kind, but I have gained so much more compassion with other people's problems through the years. I am the wife of a Minister, Rev. Roy Copeland, who has been a Pastor of East Nashville General Baptist Church, for about fifty to fifty-five years, and when you are a child of God, your compassion for others with problems, without cures, pull at my heart strings. This has been strengthened even more when my granddaughter, and husband, brought a precious baby into our family, with Down Syndrome. This little boy's name is Ryder James Hannah, who is so dear to all of our large family--and oh, so very loved....Ryder was three years old this past June, and is doing many things we weren't sure he would ever do. At the present time, Ryder doesn't talk, but has been sent to a class that teaches him sign language, in which he is doing great. He has already master a large amount of signs and is able to communicate with his close family members. Each year of his life, the DSAMT Association, sponsor a mile walk at Centennial Park for all those who wish to show their support to the Down Syndrome Chapter in Middle Tennessee. Most of our family members supports this each year, which includes donations (our group for Ryder collected $10,000 in donations for his group; and he had the most members present to walk in his name. He also won a beautiful rocking horse, which he was so pleased with. I am his great grandmother, and eighty years old, which means I will probably never live long enough to see Ryder grow into a young man, but I can hope, can't I? We have high hopes for our Down Syndrome child just the same as we do for the rest of our greats (10 at present)

    However, this story about young Ethan being brutalized by those fellows (some type of security officers) who were in charge of overseeing the theater. Now that 26 year old Down Syndrome young man is gone from this earth by the unneccessary roughness that these men showed him because he had gone back inside to watch the movie a second time. This young fellow, though without a doubt is very intelligent in most ways, some things might not be as understandable coming from him as from someone with no disability. I doubt if he knew that it was a rule to pay again if you are going to watch a movie the second time, but even if he did, what harm did he do by going back inside to enjoy it again? There are many things people with Down Syndrome probably doesn't get to enjoy, and this had been a pleasure to him, and now these THREE men killed him for the price of another ticket. He obviously hadn't thought the watching of the movie the second time, since, the lady who was his Aide, was coming to pick him up when the show was over. Yet he came out, probably to check on his Aide, and not seeing her, just went back to watch a second viewing of the movie again. How frightening that this could go on in public, and no one came to his aid; Yes, people are afraid to mess with anyone with apparent authority, so they turned a deaf ear to this young guy calling for his Mom to help him, and asking them to please stop hurting him. Things like this frightens me also, Mr. Smith. I think about our precious Ryder with deep concern.....Are our grandchildren raising him with love and tenderness, to maybe some day have something just as horrifying happen to him? This needs to be really addressed in a much different way than it was, and it MUST NOT happen again to anyone God has made and placed on earth for a purpose. Please, Please, anyone that has enough prestige or pull, use your influence and all these signatures and make sure a new law is established to prevent anything like this ever happening again. Sincerely yours, Dottie Copeland, a concerned, loving, person and an adoring Great-Grandmother... May God Bless Us All......

    • Dear grandma Dottie I wish someone with power will read your letter and take action, to make some changes in the laws but what we need is changes in the hearts of people and love each other more ...that will make the change, thank you for your kind words and I wish it was more people like you and your family in this world

  • I have a son who has a server learning disability. He is also is adhd. He is a twin I pray everyday that God gives him strength to take on this world. I know how it feels when your child is look at funny when they are not sure on what they should do. They can't help they are they are that more precious to me. The day he was born was most wonderful day ever. He is a great son. And a great boy to hangout with.

  • I feel so sorry for Ethan and his family. what the police did to him is so horrible that i hope that those 3 murderers never get another good night sleep again, i hope they are haunted by what they did for eternity. I am usually a forgiving person but i dont think they should be forgiven. what they did is unforgivable. God Bless you Ethan and i am so sorry this happened to you :(

  • I am not a parent or guardian, but I CAN say is that I have a few friends that have Down Syndrome. This story is very sad that it almost made me sob. Anyway, with that being said, Down Syndrome people should be treated equal as anyone else in this world.

  • As a parent of a child with DS I am more upset at how the NDSS has been quite. You would think they would stand up with a loud voice instead they cower. Our society accepts hatred towards special needs but goes all in for the likes of Trayvons and others. Breaking down doors is what we have to do not sit on our hands like the NDSS.

  • God will do justice for Ethan, I feel like those "police" should be having their cartilage of their throat Broken, and asfixiate them , but God will take care of them, meantime, please PUNISH those bastards, PLEASE!!!!!

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