[This post is a part of the “New Parent Guide To Down Syndrome” blog series. Be sure to check out the other posts!]
How do you hold a chid with Down syndrome? Do you have to hold a baby with Down syndrome differently? If you’ve ever asked one of these questions, we share some tips for you in this blog post.
“Watch their head” has a whole new meaning when handling most infants with Down syndrome.
Noah showing off his spread eagle
You may have noticed that your child with Down syndrome feels a bit different in your arms than a typical child. Hypotonia effects every muscle from the neck, abs, and even the mouth. It is not necessarily muscle weakness but a decrease in tone.
Tone involves tension or resistance held in a muscle at rest. This makes your child feel floppy. There are various ways to look for hypotonia. When holding the child under their armpits they will practically slip through your fingers.
Also when holding them in the palm of your hand they will lay like a wet noodle. You can pull up on their arms and look for head lag, and with hypotonia the baby will not be able to bring their head off the ground.
Simply watching them in their bassist can also give you a hint as they will lay spread eagle with arms and legs outstretched just like Noah is below.
I have handled a lot of infants in my training and hypotonia makes it a bit difficult. However it also makes for one snuggly baby. I can’t get enough of Noah cuddles. As you start your adventure with Down syndrome you will start to do several exercises to help battle hypotonia. You will hear a lot about midline, meaning that your baby can bring their arms and legs to the middle. Here are some tips we learned on handling your baby as well as positions you can use.
Snug as a bug
Swaddling your baby (like the above picture) will help them keep arms and legs midline (and sleep well). If you don’t know how to swaddle watch this awesome video by our friends over at The Fun House. You can use a large receiving blanket, or buy the handy SwaddleMe Blanket
Provide extra support to the head and remind people who hold your baby to do the same. I know that people always say this with a newborn, but it is even more true with a child with hypotonia due to the head lag that we talked about earlier.
My mommy is holding me just right
When holding the baby up, try to avoid holding underneath the armpits as the child will slip through and you will put extra stress on those joints. Hold around the rib cage just beneath the armpits where you can get a firm grasp (as pictured above). You also want to creep your fingers up to the back of the neck to offer head support.
Make sure you do not get their arms or legs caught in odd positions, as it is easy to overstretch their joints. Just be aware of where their limbs are as they can end up in some odd places without you noticing.
Laying your child in a side lying position will help them bring their hands and legs midline and can help them play with toys and interact more with their environment
Hey Mom, I can actually bring my hands to my mouth
The most important position your child should work on is tummy time. You want to do this as often as possible. They can lay flat on their belly or you can use a pillow (like a Boppy Pillow
What’s next? I got this head control thing down.
I hope these tips help you learn to hold and support your new infant with Down syndrome. Please be sure to leave a comment with any questions, and I’d be happy to try to jump in and answer them.
What challenges did you have when learning how to hold your new baby with Down syndrome. If you have other children in what ways did you find holding and supporting your child with Down syndrome different than with your children? Leave a comment and tell us about it, we’d love to hear your feedback.
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This was very helpful.. My baby was born with DS in May AlexZander. It was hard to accept at first but now he is the best thing that could have happened to me!! I love him so much! Thanks for all the info..
I'm glad it was helpful. Do you guys have any other children?
Yes we do we have an 8 year old Jd and a 2year old Cris, and they absoultly love Alex to death!
Isn't it amazing how quickly your heart melts? Granted there are challenges but they are nothing compared to the love you feel for your child.
Yes its amazing specially in the mornings when he first sees me and gives me the biggest smile ever!!He just reminds me that everything is going to be ok :)
Passing Karis has been SO much more difficult than her three older sisters! My husband and I felt a bit like "newbie" parents when we first started passing Karis back and forth between us because of her hypertonia! It really helped to have her swaddled well. Now that she's 4 months old the biggest difference I notice is while giving her a bath! So far I'm not brave enough to do it without my husband's help, just because she's so slippery! (Loving your site by the way!)
Oh man...I know just what you mean. Noah has liked to take baths for as long as I can remember and I used to be so scared when taking one with him. He's gotten a lot stronger now, but I still hold on to him pretty tightly and he's 19 month old.
As you can see he really enjoys a good bath! :-) http://noahsdad.com/baths/
Yes, sooo thankful Karis actually LIKES baths at this age.... her sisters did a lot of squirming so I can only imagine how hard it might be if she didn't like them! Thankfully we've got a system figured out that works well now! I tell ya, that first bath at home! eeekss!!!
Baths are terrifying!!! Wait until they are moving around in there trying to stand up. I have learned to put only a little bit of water in there ;)
This is a great post not only for kids with DS but is very revelvant to kids who have all sorts of muscle issues. Your pictures remind me of Coop when he was smaller and having to support most of his movement so he could get the best vantage point! It took me ages to work out how to hold my two neurotypical kids after fluctuating tone seemed the norm to me! I still have moments where i cuddle my able bodied daughter and pop her on the floor and she walks away and i think its a miracle!
Ha,ha...I can only imagine!
Thanks for the kind words about the post, I'm glad you found it useful.
I think Rick will go through the same thing :) when he holds children that actually help with the holding he thinks they feel so light :).
good post!
Thanks, I'm glad you enjoyed. Do you have any children? If so how what are there ages? :)
We have six (seven really, one is just inside still ;) ) ranging from 12 yrs down to 11 months. My sixth (the 11month old) has Down Syndrome and there have been several things I've found on your blog that I wish I'd known when she was first born (this is one of those posts). Its a great resource!
Wow....you guys have a full house! I bet you guys have a lot of fun.
Thanks for the kind words about our site. We're glad we can be a resource. When is your new baby due?
We are the PROUD Grandparents of 28 grandchildren and 16 great ones, too. Our 16th Great grandson was recently born on June 4th, 2012. Preston has Downs and we LOVE him sooo much. He is a very snuggly baby and so good, too. Never really fusses much. Your 6 tips of how to hold a ds child was so very informational to me. Instincts told me I needed to hold him differently than most of our other little ones, These tips have really opened my eyes as to how to better hold him. Your site on here and the tips were soooo helpful to me and I will be passing this info on to his Mommy and grandparents, also. PLEASE keep the tips and info coming, I
am sure it will help all of us to be a better parent/grandparent/ greatgrandparent, too:):) GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!
Do you guys have family reunions as I bet those are fun :) thanks for the support. Noah got to meet his great grandma back in Dec. It was very special. I think it is pretty awesome that you are the one on the Internet finding information :)
Great Post! Working on all these with PT already and its amazing how fast little Ava is moving along. 10 weeks old tomorrrow! To think I was upset and kind of depressed 10 weeks ago blows my mind. This little girl is rolling from back to front, picking her head up, tracking with her eyes and head. So excited for the future. It's tips like these that help make them happen!
Best,
James
Any new parents from Connecticut on this blog?
Not sure if you had a chance to ask on our Facebook page, but you may want to ask there as well. It'd be awesome if you were able to connect with some people from Connecticut through this community.
How is she already 10 weeks??? I am glad she is rocking it in therapy :)
5/30....seems like light years ago! PT is great. Connecticut has a great program (Birth to three). We had the home birth ended up in the hospital 7 days after birth were there for 8 days, and week after we came home we had our evaluation and two days later our first PT appointment. Obviously its all minor stuff now turning the head working on rolling over ect ect, but its exciting to see her doing this all on her own now. Our Pedi was pretty impressed at the two month check up. Besides PT we have also started cranial sacral, pedi chiro(sister n law is a chiro), supplementing with glyconutrients, and a laundry list of things. Such an amazing experience thus far. The stressful days are there, but it truly is amazing to see the progress. Don't get me wrong its a ton of work, but aren't all kids a ton of work! As I type this she is smiling and giving me a litttle cooooo!! I will try to post a photo to the FB tonight! Speak to you all soon! Still trying to track down some new Connecticut parents of a child born with DS anyone reading NoahsDad blog please let me know!!! Talk to you soon!
Please excuse my typos!
Great post! Our 6 mo old son has Down Syndrome and while he has better head control now, we still have to warn people who hold him to watch for his arms! I'm constantly spreading the word about your blog to our friends and family because it really is a wealth of resources. I get a lot of, "Is he going to be okay?" and being able to show them your family helps me show them that our lives will get back to normal (our new normal). Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I started following immediately after Liam's diagnosis (we found out the day after he was born) and seeing your Noah has given me so much comfort.
I am so glad we have been an encouragement!! That is one of our main goals with this is to show new parents what life will sort of be like for them. We know every story is different but it is nice to see a glimpse. Thanks for the kind words
My husband and I love snuggling our little! He is so so cuddly! I am very apprehensive about him going to daycare next week. He is now 3 months old, and much stronger, but I worry others won't hold him as gently as we do. This is a great resource, that I hope to be able to print and share with his daytime caregivers. Do you have any other suggestions they would find beneficial? The things we have been doing have become second nature, that I take for granted that others may not know to do them.
I think another big area is how you feed your child. We had to tell our care taker to feed Noah in his car seat as it provided the most support and he ate better. If you have tricks for feeding those are helpful to share. Also what works to calm them down when they are crying. Noah couldn't keep a pacifier in so we usually either held one in, or used the one with an animal attached. A child with Down syndrome can be "easy" to take care of as the majority are not fussy need attention type children...however they do need attention and activity. I would tell them to do tummy time a few times a day and if you are in therapy share the tips you are learning so they can work on some things. I am sure they will fall in love with your child :)
Thank you for sharing these ideas! I was armed and dangerous tonight at Open House with special instructions for my Baker Boy! I am terrified to leave him, as staying home playing and loving on him all day has become our norm, but feel more confident having shared my expectations. They were eager to learn and very receptive to our wishes. It's safe to say our little fella has already captured their heart. He's such a joy!
Jennifer, it looks like Noah is going to be staring school, or child care soon also. Oh man, I totally think I"m going to loose it! There's a good chance I'll cry WAY more than he will when he drop him off for the first time...and the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th....... :-)
Like my wife said feeding in the car seat worked out well for Noah considering his low tone, but in all honestly other than him having a hard time drinking from a bottle in the beginning everything else was pretty "easy." Perhaps some other parents can chime in as well.
Are you guys using one of the big daycares in your areas? How did you find the one you're using, word of mouth? I ask because it looks like we will be in the process of looking for a good day care soon, and can use all the suggestions we can get. :-)
Rick, I'm terrified! I've cried all week; I'm a blubbering mess! I have totally been the mother in Love You Forever, who creeps down the hall (or in our case, across the room), "and if he's really asleep, picks him up and rocks him back and forth, back and forth" just for a few extra minutes with my boy.
We chose our daycare when I was about halfway through my pregnancy. My husband and I toured several facilities, and solicited recommendations from friends. As a Christian, teacher, and mommy-to-be, I had some non-negotiables. I wanted a church-based preschool where our son would learn scripture, be introduced to letters, sounds, colors, etc., have the opportunity to interact with other children, and to be loved and encouraged by his teachers and peers on a daily basis. After learning there was a chance Baker would be born with DS, I was even more confident in our choice. This facility has a great relationship with Early Intervention, and is well trained on mainstreaming students with special needs. As much as I will miss staying home with him, I am excited about seeing Baker thrive in this environment.
I will be praying for your family as you make decisions regarding childcare for Noah! I know God is already preparing the perfect place for him to learn and grow alongside other children.
You have posted this at just the right time for me. I'm having my son in 3 days and will forward this out to my family and friends. Thanks for sparing me from having repeat myself, who knows how many times. In about six months can you do one of these quick tips for how to properly spoon feed a baby with low tone in the mouth? Haha
3 days??? How exciting!!! Good luck. I can't wait to see a picture.
Wow Jen, that is awesome....! Like my wife said, I can't wait to see some pictures. Do you guys have any other children?
Thanks for your suggestions, our child Pietro is 3 months and he actually moves a lot without control. Just a little question do you use the swaddling also for sleeping? I think it might be a bit too hot in this period. and till what age?
thank
Paola
I swaddled during sleep as Noah would startle himself awake. He has always been a mover. He started breaking free and sleeping fine at about 4-5 months. I think if you are using cotton and not fleece they should not get too hot.